Wednesday, February 23, 2011

Whatever Happened to Dora Moore?

This four part story was inspired by a period in the life of Dora Maar.  Dora Maar (November 22, 1907 – July 16, 1997) was a French photographer, poet and painter of Croatian descent, best known for being a lover and muse of Pablo Picasso.

This four part story will be presented over the course of the next four weeks or the next 30 days in 100 word segments.  The rationale for this will be explained at the end of the 30 days, or at the end of the story, whichever comes first.

Part One--Alone in Her Own Bed

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2/23/11  Her name is Dora Moore. She has medium brown hair and green eyes. She's five feet, eight inches tall and weighs one hundred and twenty five pounds. She got married (against her parent’s wishes) to a Navy man when she was 19. She gave birth to a beautiful baby boy six months later. They struggled to make ends meet. They argued.  Sometimes he'd leave the house and not return until very late.  One night, while she was holding the baby, he yelled at her. The baby started to cry. Dora started to cry. He started to cry. “I’m so sorry!”

 

How to Help People Get What They Want

If you believe in your network marketing product or service and you're having difficulty making sales or finding recruits chances are you are not contacting enough people.  I know, contacting people can be scary. You know what it's like to be approached by someone trying to get you to buy something you don't want or need and you don't want to inflict that same feeling on other people. Plus you know some (OK, a lot) of people aren't into (OK, hate) Network Marketing (OK, MLM). So you make up excuses not to contact more people. So, what can you do? First, you have to develop the mindset that when you contact someone you are not doing it to interrupt their life--you're doing it to help them.  But if you haven't done any research or asked any questions how do you know HOW you can help them?  Start out by saying hello, or commenting on something they said, or thanking them for something they've done. Everyone loves to be noticed and appreciated as long as it's sincere.  Break the ice, be gracious, and be patient.

Saturday, February 5, 2011

Ten Things You Should Know About Appreciation


 Ten insights on why it's important to show appreciation:
  1. You should take a few minutes each day to send someone a thank you note.
  2. You should set aside some time to call a friend or a family member to thank them for something they did.
  3. You should not expect anything in return when you send the note.
  4. You should not ask for anything when you call.
  5. Your note doesn't have to be long or elaborate (see sample above).
  6. Showing appreciation will make both you and the recipient will feel good.
  7. By showing appreciation, your life will be made better by the good will that you surround yourself with.
  8. People are attracted to positive minded people who remember and appreciate others.
  9. By showing appreciation, you will become the kind of person that others gravitate to and enjoy being around.
  10. Never fake appreciation. People can smell false gratitude (B.S.) a mile away.
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Wednesday, February 2, 2011

What is Sexual Transmutation?

 
 According to Napoleon Hill, author of Think and Grow Rich, the tenth step toward riches is SEXUAL TRANSMUTATION.

Transmutation, he explains, is "the changing, or transferring of one element, or form of energy, into another."
Mr. Hill states that scientific research has disclosed the following facts:
1.  The men of greatest achievement are men with highly developed sex natures; men who have learned the art of sex transmutation.
2.  The men who have accumulated great fortunes and achieved outstanding recognition in literature, art, industry, architecture, and the professions, were motivated by the influence of a woman.
Mr. Hill includes in this chapter a list of "TEN MIND STIMULI".  This list contains stimuli to which the mind responds most freely to.  The emotion of SEX is at the top of the list.  Take notice that I said the emotion of sex--not the physical act.  The emotion of sex is an energy that can be transmuted into a creative energy that can be used to "communicate with sources of knowledge not available through the ordinary rate of vibration of thought."
Mr. Hill writes at length on Love, Romance and Sex.  "Love," he says,"brings one into communion with Infinite Intelligence.  When mixed with romance and sex, it may lead one far up the ladder of creative effort.  The emotions of love, sex, and romance, are sides of the eternal triangle of achievement-building genius.  Nature creates genii through no other force."
Mr. Hill closes on a powerful--and perhaps--somewhat chauvinistic note.  "Man's greatest motivating force is his desire to please woman!" he declares.  "No man is happy or complete without the modifying influence of the right woman.  The man who does not recognize this important truth deprives himself of the power which has done more to help men achieve success than all other forces combined."
I tend to agree--but what then is Woman's greatest motivating force?
Happy Valentines Day! 


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Tuesday, February 1, 2011

The Power of the Master Mind

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According to Napoleon Hill--author of Think and Grow Rich--the ninth step toward riches is THE POWER OF THE MASTER MIND.

The Power of the Master Mind, he explains, is the "the driving force."  Hmmm...what exactly does that mean?  So, once again, I'm off to read this chapter of the book and I'll be back later to report.  Until then, here is an interesting quote that relates to master mind theory:

"Knowledge is power."  Sir Francis Drake

OK, I'm back and I'm happy to report that I've come away enlightened.

If you have  a GOAL and you have a PLAN you need POWER in order to translate your PLAN into ACTION.  The more POWER you have the more ACTION is taking place.  The more ACTION that is taking place, the faster you will reach your goal (or the greater the results).  How can you acquire more POWER?  Mr. Hill states that POWER may be defined as "organized and intelligently directed KNOWLEDGE."  He also indicates that there are three sources of power; infinite intelligence, accumulated experience, and experiment and research.  This is where the POWER of the MASTER MIND comes in.  Mr. Hill defines the master mind as "the coordination of knowledge and effort, in a spirit of harmony, between two or more people, for the attainment of a definite purpose." 

Imagine surrounding yourself with a team of supporters as you pursue your goal.  The liklihood of achieving your goal increases significantly.

"No man is an island."  John Donne

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Happy Lunar New Year! 2011 is The Year of the Rabbit

THE RABBIT PERSONALITY
A person born in the year of the Rabbit possesses one of the most fortunate of the twelve animal signs. The Rabbit, or Hare as he is referred to in Chinese mythology, is the emblem of longevity and is said to derive his essence from the Moon.

When a Westerner gazes at the Moon, he may joke that it is a ball of cheese or tell a child the story of the Man in the Moon. When a Chinese looks at the Moon, he sees the Moon Hare standing near a rock under a Cassia tree and holding the Elixir of Immortality in his hands.

During the Chinese mid-Autumn festival when the Moon is supposed to be at its loveliest, Chinese children still carry lighted paper lanterns made in the image of a Rabbit and climb the hills to observe the Moon and admire the Moon Hare.

The Rabbit symbolizes graciousness, good manners, sound counsel kindness and sensitivity to beauty. His soft speech and graceful and nimble ways embody all the desirable traits of a successful diplomat or seasoned politician.

Likewise, a person born under this sign will lead a tranquil life, enjoying peace, quiet and a congenial environment. He is reserved and artistic and possesses good judgment. His thoroughness will also make him a good scholar. He will shine in the fields of law, politics and government.

But he is also inclined to be moody; at such times he appears detached from his environment or indifferent to people.

The Rabbit is extremely lucky in business and monetary transactions. Astute at striking bargains, he can always pop up with a suitable proposal or alternative to benefit himself. His sharp business acumen, coupled with his knack for negotiation, will ensure him a fast rise in any career.

Although the Rabbit may assume an outer air of indifference to the opinions of others, he actually withers under criticism. His "rather switch than fight" technique can be deceiving and he can be diabolically cunning when he puts his mind to it. So while the Rabbit person is tender and obliging to his loved ones, he can be superficial and even ruthless in his dealings with outsiders. Suave and self-indulgent, he enjoys his creature comforts and likes to put his own wishes first. It irks him terribly to be inconvenienced for he is a considerate, modest and thoughtful person and he would like others to be the same. He sincerely believes it costs people nothing to be nice to each other and he will always make an effort to be civil, even to his worst enemy. He abhors brawling and any sort of overt animosity.

For all his quiet and misleadingly docile nature, a Rabbit person possesses a strong will and an almost narcissistic self-assurance. He pursues his objectives with methodical precision but always in an unobtrusive manner. If there is anything he isn't going to be accused of, it is that he is an obvious or thick-skinned person. He won't make waves. The special trait that makes the Rabbit person a formidable negotiator is his inscrutability. It is difficult ever to assess his thoughts correctly.

The Rabbit usually has impeccable manners. He seldom uses harsh words and will never resort to foul language or vulgarisms to bring home a point. There is little need to anyway, as he has his own techniques. The Rabbit could hide under this cloak of decency to undermine his opponents. His credentials are usually flawless or at least in good order. He will wine and dine you in the best places and cater to your every whim when he is after something. Then, when you have eaten your fill and are puffing away contentedly at that expensive cigar, he will pull out the contract for you to sign. Before you know it, he has cut you off at the knees. He was so deft, you didn't even feel any pain. It was all over with the stroke of a pen. My sympathies are with you, friend. You are just another victim of the incomparable Hare. Now do you understand why Bugs Bunny always gets his carrots in all those cartoon strips?

The Rabbit may appear a bit slow or overly deliberate at times, but this is due to his inborn sense of caution and discretion. One can be sure he is going to read the fine print before signing any document. Because of his ability to assess people and situations, the Rabbit can afford to be conceited--which, by the way, he is.

The demure Ms. Rabbit is very considerate and understanding with her friends: a great gal to work with, shop with or just tell stories with. She is delightfully warm and witty and her company is always relaxing. She has a lot of energy for the things she likes to do and can tirelessly track down antique shops or plan a friend's wedding to the last detail. But when she feels she has had enough of all that rigmarole, well, you can expect her to drop whatever she is doing, prop up her dainty feet and go all limp. That is the philosophical part of the Rabbit. Do you know why she can keep so serene with all that frantic action going on? The secret is to know when your batteries need recharging, and no one has better knowledge or timing on this than the Rabbit.

While everyone is killing himself in a mad rush to get somewhere, the Rabbit knows that the world will still be here tomorrow. So, what's the big hurry? Why don't you sit down, too? She will probably make you a nice cup of tea and help you forget all about that crazy rat race outside.

In any situation, you can always rely on the Rabbit to be in control of herself. She will notice the license number of the getaway car or remember that the driver was wearing camel-colored trousers or elevator shoes. And while you are at the police station filing that report, she will calmly recall all the details and help you answer all those irritating questions.

All in all, the Rabbit is one who really knows how to live. What's more, he or she is more than willing to let live. Not a spoilsport or disciplinarian with an ever-watchful eye, the Rabbit knows when to refrain from criticism. He never likes to embarrass anyone in public. He is adept at the art of saving face, both yours and his, and if there is any way he can spare your feelings, he will.

Have no doubt--he makes mental notes of your mistakes or progress. But if things are not serious or beyond redemption, he will goodheartedly let you pass. For this trait, he is well-liked and popular. An advantage of this philosophy is that the Rabbit makes few enemies and thus rarely gets into trouble. People respond by being generous to him and letting him pass, too.

No one has a more sympathetic ear to lend you than the Rabbit (except the Sheep) should you need one. But while he is an excellent soother and compassionate listener, he will only take the role of a passive advisor. He is, above all, an intellectual, a realist and a pacifist. Do not expect him to go out with all colors flying and do battle for you. That would be asking too much of him. Let's face it, the Rabbit will never elect to trudge up Mount Calvary with you, no matter what great buddies you two claim to be. He'll lend you the money for the lawyer or bail you out of jail if he can afford it, but that's about all. And if you are getting to be too much of a nuisance, you can count on his making a quick but graceful exit from your life.

The comely and refined Miss Rabbit will not be adverse to marrying a good old-fashioned millionaire instead of a handsome but penniless swain. The former will be able to provide her with the advantages and luxuries she demands as necessities. Her man must be powerful enough to protect and support her in style, and sensitive enough to politely disappear when she is in a sullen mood and wishes to remain undisturbed.

When given the choice, the Rabbit will vote for the easy and good life every time. He or she will wear loose comfortable clothing of superb cut and fabric. Cashmere sweaters, pure silk blouses and durable linens and tweeds. A mink or chinchilla carelessly thrown over the shoulder in a calculated air of nonchalance could also identify the elegant Rabbit native. Flashy, geometric or shocking designs offend the Rabbit's sense of conformity and balance.

While gracious to friends and coworkers, the Rabbit person may be somewhat distant from his own family or simply bored by domestic routine and duties. He or she hates too close associations; he will shake off an encroachment on his privacy or clinging parasitic friends with no regret. He can be bureaucratic and hedgy over difficult issues. As he is one who hates binding commitments or over-involvement, he can also be an expert at passing the buck.

Mr. Rabbit is singularly debonair. He moves with grace, charm and gentlemanliness, in spite of the fact that while he was singing your praises, he was also drinking all your best wine. Yes, the Rabbit gravitates toward the cream of society and gentlemanly leisure. On second thought, the cream of high society could well be made up of poised and genial Hares.

At his best, the Rabbit is admired for his suaveness and intelligence and sought after for his sensible advice. At his worst, he is too imaginative, oversensitive or just acidly indifferent. He avoids coming into contact with human suffering or misery, as though it were some highly contagious disease.

The Rabbit is not at all easy to trap. He can also become very repressive in his predilection for secrecy or privacy. When the Rabbit person feels threatened, his subtle brooding or concealed antagonism could be expressed by the use of subversive tactics. Joseph Stalin and Fidel Castro and South Africa's Johannes Vorster are Rabbits. It is also worth noting that Thailand's King Bhumibol, admired and well-loved by his subjects for his exemplary life and devotion to music, art and domestic harmony, was born in the year of the Rabbit. So were King Olav V of Norway, Queen Victoria, Albert Einstein, David Rockefeller and David Frost.

For all his positive qualities, a native of this sign will still value himself above all else. When pushed too far, he will discard anything or anyone who dares upset the calm of his existence. His beliefs are known to be flexible and he has the knack of playing both sides for insurance. Security could be an obsession to the weaker types of this specimen; you rarely find a Rabbit in areas of high risk.

This love of ease coupled with his distaste for conflict may give the Rabbit a reputation for being weak, opportunistic and self-indulgent. Unlike the Dragon, Dog, Tiger, or Rooster, who all enjoy a hearty fight now and then, and may even thrive on it, the Rabbit has no relish for combat. He was not born to be a warrior. He is more effective working behind the scenes. Do not be concerned about the Rabbit's well-being. He is agile and sagacious and armed with the good sense to keep out of harm's way. Unlike other signs, who may pursue lofty ideals, the Rabbit's main objective in life is simply self-preservation.

The Rabbit year is said to bring peace or at least a respite from conflict or war. Likewise, its native will do everything in his power to restore harmony or he will leave the scene.

The Rabbit person makes a good entertainer and is a wonderful host. Pleasant and warm company, he has a good word to say of everyone. But don't let that fool you. He knows more than he will say and you can easily recognize him by his finesse. He will be the best of friends so long as you take care not to ask too much of him.

The well-groomed Rabbit is most compatible with those born in the Sheep year. They will share the same good taste and love of material comforts. Equally well suited will be a relationship with the Dog person or the honest, unimposing Roar native. The Rat, Dragon, Monkey, Ox, Snake and Rabbit will make good secondary matches for him. But he will not be able to tolerate the vanity or criticism of the Rooster, is unimpressed by the dramatics of the Tiger and unappreciative of the quick-tempered and mercurial ways of the Horse.

To sum it up, the Hare simply leaps over obstacles in his path and recovers from calamities with remarkable resilience. No matter how he is tossed, he lands on his feet. He may not be close to his family but will make every effort to provide them with the best of everything. His soft, vulnerable-looking exterior is protected by an armor of cautiousness and sagacity. In life, the Rabbit will avoid being drawn into conflict at any cost, unless, of course, it affects him directly, at which time he will take the appropriate measures to protect his interests.

There is no great inner struggle in the Rabbit's heart between the forces of good and evil. He believes in his own ability to survive, relies on his own judgment and is at peace with himself. His is the sign most apt to find happiness and contentment.